You Have All the Answers: On Trusting Yourself

Learning to trust myself has been an incredible challenge. It was ingrained in me, since I was a little girl, that I needed other people to help me see what I was blind to. For so long, I felt that I was broken and I depended on others to fix me. While I can clearly see now that this was a lie, it was a lesson that my spirit needed. I had to learn: I have all the answers, I am already whole, and I don’t need to give my power away to others seeking a truth that resides within.

Now, I’m not saying I know all the answers in a cocky way. What I mean is that the answers to our greatest spiritual questions — who am I? what is my purpose? how do I heal myself? what I am so fearful of? — those answers are within us, waiting to be discovered. It may take time to unearth these truths, but if you are meant to know something, it will show itself to you, one way or another.

Healing a lack of self-trust has been a big part of my journey, and it’s common amongst women (for simplicity, I’ll use the term “women”, noting this encompasses all female-identifying people, and all people who may not identify as female, but deeply relate to the struggles described below). In this world, women are taught the many ways in which we are deficient. Society at large tells us that we’re not smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough, creative enough, strong enough to make our way in the world independently. We’re told we need to be fixed, so we’re sold products and procedures to “improve” ourselves, and marriage to a man is revered (for many) as the ultimate goal, the peak of our life’s success. “You can’t possibly do it alone” is the message heard around the world by women for centuries.

Now, many of us know that this is a lie. Women are the ultimate creators. Without needing to know, be, or look any particular way, we literally make life itself. We simply are that powerful. While I knew this logically, it took a divorce, career burnout, a few spiritual awakenings, a lot of energy healing, and time to really embody this truth- to feel deep in my bones that I am worthy, I am powerful, I deserve happiness, and I am already whole. It’s been a long process of discovering myself, of shedding the external messaging, and really attuning to my truth.

Those of us on the healing, spiritual path are like explorers of our own spirits, bodies, emotions, and minds. We use our consciousness to examine the root of the physical pain, the fear, the depression, etc. When we do so lovingly, we unearth the medicine we need to heal. When we trust ourselves to do this self-discovery work, we strengthen our intuition, our resilience, and our worthiness- we expand into the highest version of ourselves and find that we really do have all the answers.